Monday, May 30, 2016

Preparing for the new maid

My maid left last week and surprisingly we've been managing pretty OK without her. Apart from laundry, everything else is under control I suppose. Yes, the house is in a mess. Yes, I'm always in a bad mood because I have to do everything! Yes, my husband is a big help and yet I'm still always grumpy but despite all that, we have been managing well without a maid. The part time maid comes in 3 times a week to do the laundry and so far, so good. Kids seem to love her too and they want her to stay instead.

We received a note from the agent that the new maid has arrived and is finally here in Malaysia. All set to welcome her except, we have no furnitures inside her room yet. Why? Because we chucked the wardrobe and table away after my maid left. We thought we could do with new furnitures in that room. I personally feel that it is still OK but since my husband said to change, ok fine, change!

We also threw away most of the stuff she left behind like soap, lotion and what not. Which means, I need to buy new ones.

I dont really have time to shop so what did I do instead? ONLINE SHOPPING. Haha..
I tesco-onlined it! Listed down all the stuff I need to get for the maid like shower gel, shampoo, deodorant and feminine wash etc and got it from Tesco. It has been a while since I use their service to be honest. Next thing I need to get will be some pyjamas, stay at home clothes like T-shirts and pants and bath towels. I wish they sell these online but I dont know any sites.

I guess we are all set to welcome the new maid. And it will be Ramadhan too. This time will be our first muslim maid. It will be interesting.

We've been maidless for almost 2 weeks now. I think it is manageable now that the kids are a lot older and more independent. Apart from laundry, I think we are managing quite well. For the first time ever, I've been home alone with no maid and no husband. He is out of town for work and I've been doing everything on my own with no help. I know a lot of mothers are doing it. It is not easy I tell you. I am kind of enjoying my alone time with my kids and somehow they behave better when it's just with me around.

I think I'm ready to get some help….

The agent is going to drop the new maid off at 1pm. Wish me luck!
Tuesday, May 24, 2016

Octopus Mum

OK, I admit. I SUCK at being a mum. There!!! Go ahead and judge me.

It's only been a week since my maid left and already feel the pressure and tension. Kids are sooooo demanding, MashaAllah.

Even with maid, our house is always messy so you can imagine how it looks like without one. I feel like screaming and shouting all the time especially when kids dont listen or do something I told them to do fast enough. I hate the kind of mother I am sometimes.

It doesn't help that I am also PMSing and feeling fat.

Yesterday, we had a Part Time maid come over. She's a local indian lady and is also cleaning a few houses nearby. My neighbour recommended her and alhamdulillah, it is like Allah is answering my prayers before I even asked. I've never spoken to this neighbour before but I've seen her at the carpark once in a while. A day before my maid left we started saying hi and started talking. She is super sweet and friendly. I was telling her about my maid leaving and she told me this Aunty can come and clean my house if I want. Just like that, I got a part time maid who can come over 2x a week. That's not easy to find. The part timer I used to call is always super busy.

So anyway, Aunty Lashmy came yesterday and my kids was so excited to have another person in the house. This Aunty speaks English too and this was a major bonus because my kids would just talk and talk to her. It was so good to just be alone for awhile while Aunty Lashmy was doing the laundry and folding the clothes. My Goodness, my maid left a huge pile of washed clothes unfolded. I couldn't do it because it was like a mountain! Thank God for Aunty Lashmy.

She was here for 4 hours and paid RM100.00

By the time she was gone, it was already 8pm. It was dark so I decided to drop her off at the bus stop nearby. My house, finally looks normal again.

In the car, Aunty asked if my maid was a full time or a part timer. I told her Norilynn is a full timer and she couldn't believe the amount of work Norilynn left behind. It was as if I never had a maid.

This morning, I had another meltdown.
I got up before 6am. Prepared my daughter's school bag, with all her swimming stuff (she has swimming class today) and woke her up, gave her a shower, put clothes on for her, prepared her breakfast, woke my son up, made him breakfast, gave him a shower and all this felt too much for me!
I even got time to do some spelling practice with my daughter because she had spelling test today.

While I was in the shower, my 2 instructions were:

1. Do corrections (she had a couple of mistakes and needed to do corrections)
2. Drink IZUMIO

I showered and when I got out and got dressed and ready to go, both the above wasn't done yet. ARGHHH!! I went nuts.

She was late to school. I told her we are not leaving until she is done with her IZUMIO and to pee before we leave.

In the car, I feel like crying.

Yes I know, it is a typical day for many mums out there. Working and nonworking mum. I get it.
I get that everyone is struggling and for many, my struggles are a joke because they have to do A LOT more. Yes, I GET IT. But just leave me alone and let me rant in peace here, can or not??? This is my page after all.

So yeah, life is a bitch, so shoot me!

On another note……. I feel so blessed that I have a wonderful husband who is so hands on and helps me a lot around the house. Yeah he can't sit with my daughter and make sure she does her correction for her spelling, which drives me nuts but at least he does help me with the dishes.

Speaking of dishes….
This is how bad I am at housework… I actually broke a cup while doing dishes. How the hell did I do that? Dont know, dont ask!!!

I think I was really born to be a princes……. like, really!
Sunday, May 22, 2016

Goodbye Norilynn

Last Thursday we said goodbye to our maid. She was with us for slightly over 2 years.

When Norilynn first came into our lives, we still had our super maid, Rose with us. For almost 3 weeks Rose stayed on to "trained" Norilynn. I didn't have to do anything. Rose got it all covered. Rose was with us for about 2.5 years and although it is not that much longer than Norilynn was with us, we all feel more connected to Rose. I guess Rose was a better communicator. Norilynn's English wasn't so good and sometimes I dont even know what she is trying to say.

2 years went by so fast. I cannot believe she was with us for that long. My son was not even 2 years old yet when she first came. Kids really bullied her like mad. She was really soft with them and they never ever listen to whatever she asks them to do. Poor thing. I had to always come and shout to get the kids to do something. Norilynn could never do it without me coming to shout.

Overall her work was ok. Nothing to really shout about but I couldn't ever say she's bad at it. She was already. A great help around the house. She's not a super maid like Rose was but no one can come close to how Rose was and it is not fair to compare, anyway. I get all depressed when I think about how Rose was and how Norilynn was because the difference is A LOT!

So anyway, people come and go and that's the sad part about having a helper around the house. Especially for the kids. They're so pampered, yes but despite all that, they still had a great bond and connection with all the maids. My kids always include their kakak (they call the maids that) whenever they draw family photos. The kakak were a part of our family so obviously, saying Goodbye is not easy. Especially for the kids.


My daughter wrote this for Norilynn before she left. I had to laugh about it because first, it says "cacat" instead of "Kakak". Hehehhehe….
Then it is "Buy Buy" instead of "Bye Bye"

No she doesn't know the meaning of cacat and she doesn't call her that! Thank god she doesn't know what cacat means too! LOL

At the airport and on the way to the airport, my daughter kept saying things like "I wish kakak can stay…but she can't". Norilynn told us she will call us and call the kids when she's back in Philippine.
My son wanted to go with her and he was serious about leaving us here! I had to say "no, you can't because you didn't bring your underwear and clothes with you" and then he thought to himself, oh bummer, I should have packed. He really wanted to go with her.

Finally at the gate, my daughter started crying her eyes out like someone just died. Really full on crying while she was hugging me tightly. I couldn't help feeling sad for her so I cried as well. I hugged Norilynn and thanked her for all she's done for us. My son just looked at us with his face so sad and ready to cry but he was holding back tears. You could see he was really trying to be strong. He didn't say a word but just looked down.

After she went inside, my daughter kept on crying. My son just looks at her and then my husband asked him if he was OK and then he started crying like crazy. It was really sad.

Both cried all the way to the mall. We had to bribe them with Baskin Robbins. Poor kids.

It's been a few days now since she left. Both kids are ok now. They've gotten over it but my daughter still say stuff like "oh I wish kakak was here" "I wish kakak can see this"

And you know….?

She hasn't called us to tell us that she's arrived. I wish she did. Kids would love to hear from her. ah well…..

I also gave her a small token to say thank you. It's an end of another era for us….

Juice Diet? Done that!

We successfully completed the Juice Diet Detox challenge! Hurray! I cannot believe I actually did it!

It was the worst day to start a juice diet because my maid was leaving for good and I knew that we'll be out for dinner that day.

I ordered the juice the day before and they told me that it will arrive the next morning. When they told me it will be delivered in the morning, I thought it was going to be like 8am or something but it only came at almost 11am. I was super hungry already by then. Mamapumpkin and Mom2Ashey's juices came late too. Someone cheated and have breakfast. I won't tell you who it is but yes, one of us did. (Im not a breakfast person so it wasn't me! LOL).

We had our first juice at almost 11am. That's almost lunch time, yo!!! Before my juices came, I already had 2 packets of IZUMIO. I had my first IZUMIO at 6.30am, which is my usual routine when I wake up in the morning anyway and then again at 10am because I was feeling hungry.

This was how my whole day went…

6.30am - 1 Packet of IZUMIO

10am - 1 Packet of IZUMIO

11am - Nutty Professor Juice (like a chocolate drink. Good for me since I usually have milo in the morning)

1am - Sunkissed Juice (this is like orange mixed with ginger, pineapple and carrots. Very yummy)

3pm - Beds of Roses (almond, rose petals, dates and beetroot. I dont know if I love or hate this drink. I actually dont mind it but it taste too much like I'm drinking rose juice)

5pm - Passion  (this was my first time trying this. It is quite yummy. I think this is my new favourite juice. It is mango and pineapple and dont know what else but it is yummy)

8pm - Green Dtox juice (I was quite surprised that I quite like it)

10pm - Another green juice called Salad in a bottle

11pm - 1 packet of IZUMIO

Not bad huh???

The first half of the day was tough because I was feeling quite hungry. You are supposed to drink every 2 hours and I did. Sometimes 2 hours will go past really quickly and you won't even feel it. But sometimes, your mind just want to play tricks on you and just want you to suffer a little bit more. For some weird reason all my favourite food started appearing on my friend's instagram. It is like it is some kind of conspiracy going on or something. Really!

When we got to KLIA2, we had to go for dinner. It didn't help that it took us almost 3 hours to get to the airport too due to the traffic on Jalan Tun Razak. I was so pissed.
We went to the food court because we didn't know where else to eat there. So many food to choose from and I was really tempted to just eat something. I wasn't so hungry. I took my Green Detox juice with me and had that at the airport. My son had chicken rice and my husband had Yong Tou Foo. I took a few pieces of chicken from my son's chicken rice and had some of my husband's food too.

So yea, I kind of failed the challenge but I couldn't stand the temptation.

Overall it went alright. I didn't eat anything the whole day and only had that few bites for dinner. That's acceptable right?

Funny how the next day I was craving for more juice and wished I could go on that juice diet for another day. I think next time I can try again. This time, without food totally. 3 days is the next target.

I can do it!!!


Wednesday, May 18, 2016

Detox, anyone?

Lately, I've been having breakouts. Yes, me! I have breakouts!!!! Argh. I dont know what is the cause of it because I've not been using or consuming anything different but I'm breaking out super bad! It is not normal for me to have skin THIS BAD. *hides under the table*

I dont have perfect skin but it is usually under control and not too bad. But this time, it is BAD!!!! So bad that my husband is concerned. Yikes.

I know there's something not right somewhere. I blame my hormones. Maybe I'm having some kind of hormonal imbalance or something? I dont know. It all started when I bought this serum thingy from Dermalogica and slowly spots started coming out. But when I realised that it is making my skin bad, I stopped. It has been months since I stopped using that product on my skin but how come my skin is still bad? Whatever it is, I continue consuming IZUMIO and Super Lutein because I trust that if I continue consuming, it will all clear up in time. IZUMIO is known to be a powerful drink that can get rid of all the free radicals in my body. This is perhaps what it is doing, getting rid of all the bad stuff. Maybe the weather is no good to my skin or something, I dont know.

So, I went for facial the other day and extraction was painful. I wanted to cry because my skin was peeling too. It was so painful…but beauty is pain, right? In my attempt to be pretty and have nice skin again, I must do something about it.

I had a chat with Hampshire Mummy and she suggested I try juice detox diet for 1 day. 1 day only? Are you serious? Dont think 1 day can do much or can it? Juice detox diet means no food but only juice all day! Wah! Sounds easy but can I do it? Hampshire Mummy laughed at me when I told her I should do 1 week detox. hehe.. It is quite funny actually. 1 day only and I can't stop thinking about Nasi Lemak already. How to survive 1 week with no food?

I was so motivated to try this juice detox diet. I'm a sucker like that. I quickly got Mom2Ashley and Mamapumpkin to join me in this challenge. To my surprise, they agreed. (They're suckers too!) Hurray!!! Let's detox together-gether. I know it is easier to do when you have support and have friends to bitch with when you are hungry because we all will be bitching together.

I ordered my juices from my favourite juice place and got them to deliver it to me. First time using their delivery service. I told them I want to start immediately and they told me that it can be delivered to me in the morning.

I will update my progress tomorrow.

My skin looks ok today (after facial it always looks a bit red and marks all over) but it doesn't look too bad.

My weight today is 56.5 (WTH!!!)

And I'm hungry. Somehow when you want to go on diet, all of a sudden you can't stop thinking about nasi lemak! pfft!!!



A little treat

Hurray! Maths exam is over. I've given my best. I've done my very best to support her, revise with her and practice with her. There is nothing more I can do. For my daughter, I think she has done her best too. Although I'm still not very confident she will do well, I know she has done her very best. I just pray that whatever results she got, it will only motivate her to do better in the future. You know how it is, when your friends all get 90% but you get 60%, you will feel so down. I dont want that. I dont mind the results, any results but I want her to be proud that she's given her all. At year 1, at less than 6 years old, it is difficult to get that concept right. Someday, hopefully.

We have another exam next week. Science. But it is not too difficult I think. She does quite well with science and I'm not so worried. I dont think we will be studying and revise so much for science. I'm going to let her chill for a bit.

As a treat, that Maths exam is over, I decided to let them go for a swim. My kids love swimming. But because of the heat, the haze and the rain, we haven't gone swimming in a while. Yesterday was a great day for swimming because it was not that sunny and it was kind of cloudy. Weather was perfect for swimming.

Day 1
My daughter would usually pick a flower for me from around the pool. She's a sweetheart. I always get a flower whenever she goes swimming. That day, I took a packet of IZUMIO down and drank while watching them swim. They had so much fun.

Day 2

The next day, after school, they wanted to go swimming again. This time, they pandai-pandai invited our neighbour along. Total of 4 kids were swimming including mine. It was like a mini pool party. They had so much fun. I took my work down so I can get some work done while they were swimming. My maid was also around to keep an eye on them. A luxury indeed because I can't work while they are swimming if there isn't another adult watching them.

Today they've asked if they could go swimming again but no can do. We will be going to the airport to send my maid off. Plan is to have dinner at the airport too. Hurray for no cooking!



Tuesday, May 17, 2016

Be Prepared

We booked a single ticket for my maid already. It's really happening. She's going! This week we will all send her to the airport and send her off. I will be maidless for about a week or so. I'll be in super bad mood. Be prepared.

Extra things I need to do:
1. Breakfast for my daughter
2. Shower my son 
3. Prepare lunch & break food for my daughter 
4. Prepare breakfast for my son
5. Prepare snacks for my son to bring to school
6. Feed my son lunch
7. Clean up after cooking and food prep for dinner
8. Feed my son dinner
9. Wash & iron school uniform
10. Shoot myself!! 
Sunday, May 15, 2016

Happy Teacher's Day 2016

Today is Teacher's Day celebration in my daughter's school.

Do you remember your teachers from school? I remember a few. 

1. Puan Siti Zubaidah (my standard 2 Kuning SRK Assunta 1, PJ Class Teacher) 
I remember her so well. She was young, tall and beautiful. Like a model. You wouldn't believe that she's a teacher. I loved her more than a class teacher. She was just awesome!
She loved me more than a student too. She would invite me (and few other favourite students) to her house in Damansara Heights and we would all swim together. She lived in the massive huge bungalow there. I followed her balik Kampung too a few times. I was like a daughter to her. When we moved to standard 3, she moved away. She got posted somewhere to a different school and I have not seen her since. I miss her. I always think about her.

2. Mrs Loo. (my standard 3 class teacher in Assunta). I hated her with all my heart. She was the worst!!! She would physically shake me when I didn't complete my homework (which is ALL THE TIME). My bad! But still, I didn't do homework in Standard 2 too and Puan Siti was always kind and gentle. Mrs Loo was so bad that even when I finished and completed my work (artwork) at home, she would FORCE me to say my dad helped me and I didn't do it. WTF?! I did it by myself btw. I guess she couldn't handle it that my artwork was THAT GOOD! Bitch! Funnily, when I moved to standard 4, she was super nice. Whatever man. I hate u!

3. Puan Mahsuri (my standard 6 class teacher in Assunta). She was everyone's favourite because she's nice and sweet all the time. I quite like her. Her favourite student is this chinese girl in class. She's one of the smartest girl, talented (can play the piano etc etc) and basically, perfect student. One time in BM class, Puan Mahsuri said she would cut her own finger if this girl got a B for UPSR BM. She was so confident that her favourite student would score an A for BM. Guess what? That girl got a B! LOL.
And no, we didn't cut her finger. Kesian la…

Funnily enough, I dont remember many teachers in CBN. I was in CBN (Convent Bukit Nanas) for a few years before I moved to Sri Cempaka. I guess teachers there didn't make an impact in my life at all. I vaguely remember one male teacher. That was only because he was the only male teacher in school and everyone was gedik with him. Ew.. I wasn't one of them. I gedik with the St. Johns boys across the street instead. LOL. Kidding!!!!

In Sri Cempaka, I had a few really funny teachers. Funny because back then, we were all teenagers and  bullied the teachers instead. The good teachers are the ones we can be friends with (like our BM teacher - who spoke English and taught us BM in English. LOL). She was really nice. She would tell us about her family life, her kids and the trouble she went through to adopt her son. She was someone we could talk to if we had any problems. There was super garang teacher like Ms Sandra who was our Biology teacher. She was good and really strict. Our Ustaz was also really cool. He was so funny and we enjoyed our Agama classes a lot. Not sure if we learned anything but Agama classes were always fun.

So yea… I had pretty awesome teachers both in primary and secondary school. To find a good teacher is like finding gold. It is really rare to find. I'm thankful that we found really good teachers for my kids…

Ms Rose: She is this amazing scottish lady who was my daughter's school teacher next door and now teaching my son. She's so dedicated and I just love her so much. I am so blessed both my kids got the chance to be under her wings. She is just amazing. 

Teacher Tracy: My daughter's Singapore Maths class teach is also very good. She is so kind and gentle with her and ever so loving. My daughter can talk non stop and Teacher Tracy will always know the best way to get her to stop talking without her feeling put off to talk again when the lesson is over.

In her big school, she loves her class teacher Mrs Muru, English teacher Mrs Edwin, her Mandarin teacher Ms Chin and her speech & drama teacher Puan Wahidah. I hope these teachers will continue to motivate my daughter to be the best she can be. 


For teacher's day, I decided to do a small little card for her teachers. Nothing special. My daughter told me what she wanted to put on the card and I pretty much put it together.


Added some ribbons to make it look prettier. I have a bunch of ribbons lying around and I know I have pink ones but my maid couldn't find them. I was so annoyed because I knew I had some in all sorts of colours. But finally, this one was the only ones she found. It doesn't even match the theme!! Argh. 


We were in Bangsar Village and wanted to get flowers there but they wanted to charge us ridiculous price for just 1 rose in a plastic. I wouldn't have it. I told my husband to drive me to Floristika in Bangsar. I got a pack of 15 roses for RM38 and another RM6 for the plastic wrapper thingy. I just have to add some cotton and aluminium foil at the end. DIY it myself. I thought it looked quite alright.


Last night, I packed everything and off she went this morning to give 1 each to every teacher. I hope they like it. It's not much but it comes from the heart.

My son also took some flowers to school to give it to his 2 teachers. They loved it.

Happy Teachers Day….

Oh wait a minute…. Shouldn't I get one too?? I am a teacher too at home after all!

Me trying to teach my daughter about Time for maths exam this Wednesday
*pulls hair*

Next day... I got a surprise from Hamshire Mummy... 

                    
Trust me, I ain't sharing!!! Thank you for my first Teacher's Day gift! Heheh
Friday, May 13, 2016

Breakfast like a Queen

Remember my post about skipping dinner and rice? Well screw that! We are back at our usual routine and worse than we were before. That few weeks of skipping dinner and rice, I PUT ON weight! How is that possible? God knows!

So screw that! I'm going on a seafood diet. I see food, I eat it!

Lately, I cannot go by without breakfast. For the longest time, my body got used to having no breakfast except during holidays (because it is impossible to say no to breakfast buffet). But lately since my son started going to this new school, there's a stall there that is famous for Malaysian Breakfast and we just couldn't resist. My hubby and I would send our son to school in the morning and then drop by this stall for breakfast. On the days when my husband is not around or not free for breakfast, I will tapau and eat at home! Damn! There goes my diet!

My favourite is the soto. My Soto is better but because I am so lazy, this is good. I love it! 

I will also buy few kuihs while I'm there. This two are my favourite. I'm not a very kuih melayu fan but I like these ones.

On Saturdays, we will have breakfast at the Teh Tarik Place near my daughter 's maths class. Roti telur and milo dinasaur!!!

Please feel free to give me a slap when I complain I am fat!


Good news is my cholesterol level is tip top. My sugar level is also tip top. Alhamdulillah I can eat like a cow and still have good health. Izumio daily and super Lutein daily is a must! Trust me, it helps me maintain the good numbers during my medical check ups. Try it! Give it a go for a year and monitor your readings and feel free to slap me if it doesn't go down. I truly believe that the hydrogen help eliminate all the free radicals in our system. I get to eat all I want and still enjoy food without feeling so bad. 

End of another era

2 Blessed years with my current maid. She's not the best but she's been good, no fuss and loyal I would say. Of course having had THE BEST MAID ever with my previous helper, no one can come close but this current one is really a blessing to me. She doesn't ask for anything and if you see how my kids bully her, you will really feel sorry for her. She's so sabar and soft with them. Bless her.

Her 2 year contract ended sometime in April. Because of the process of getting a new maid can take some time, we had to extend her contract a little bit longer. Ideally, I would like the new one to come when the current one is still around so she can teach her what to do but her extension was only up till 19 May 2016 and the new maid is still not here yet. Looks like I'll be the one training her and I really dont know jackshit about doing housework. Yikes!

This morning, my maid told me that her grandma passed away. She was in tears and I felt really bad. I know she must be really sad. If she didn't have to extend her contract, she would still be with her grandma during her last days. We didn't even give her a choice. We just extended her stay. We just informed her and that was it. Today, I really felt sad and bad for her.

Then in the afternoon, the agent called to say her extension is only granted till 19th May. So unless we want to pay an additional RM450, she will have to leave next week. At that time, we didn't know when new maid will be arriving too. I was quite stressed out because weekdays with school and whatnot, it is quite hectic for me. But then suddenly, the agent text me to say new maid will arrive on the 20th.
Good timing!!

I guess it is the end of another era for us. I am not very close to my current maid compared to the previous one. Somehow I just didn't and couldn't connect with this one but I am thankful for her. I'm so grateful for her services and my kids are slowly starting to feel sad. My son especially because she came when he was only slightly over 1 year old.

I am feeling quite sad.

I'm worried this new one will not be as good. This new maid will be Indonesian. My first Indonesian maid. My kids are already complaining because they can't speak BM. I dont know how things are going to change around here but I pray to God that it will be better. I hope this new one can cook. One thing off my shoulder would be good….

Norilyn, Thank You for being so patient with all of us. Thank you for helping us with so much around the house. Thank You for putting up with my crazy kids. Thank you for always making sure our life is comfortable and making my life easier. I pray you will find happiness in whatever you do and I hope we gave you a good life this 2 years with us. We will miss you a lot.
Thursday, May 12, 2016

Primary School Sweethearts

Do you remember yours? LOL

I only started noticing boys or had interest in them when I was in secondary school. Late bloomer? Whatever lah!

When my primary school friends had boyfriends and was already "dating", I couldn't care less. Wasn't interested at all. I was not that cute too to have boyfriends in primary school. I was quite a tomboy.

BUT, my primary school sweetheart was my next door neighbour. We sort of grew up together. He lived next door to my Tokmi and my Tokmi was sort of his babysitter as both his parents were working. His mum was my primary school teacher. I call her mama. We were close. I loved him and I haven't seen him since primary school when we moved away but in my heart, he is forever my primary school sweetheart. Whenever we go to the padang to play, we would pretend like the slides was our home and he is the husband and I am the wife. It was so cute. He is 2 years older than me. He is a hunk by the way. I sort of bumped into him many many years ago and almost died. He is drop dead gorgeous. I didn't say hi obviously.

So anyway, speaking of primary school sweetheart, my daughter…at not even 6 years old has one. He is in her class and he likes her. Apparently, he is quite a sweet talker and been in love with many girls in his class before but I guess, my daughter is the one he likes right now. I find it so cute and funny.
One day in school, he asked me if he can take my daughter as his girlfriend. Yes, those were his words. I was too shocked to give him an answer but I said everyone can be her friend. Just friends.

Yesterday, she came back from school with a little gift from him. It was this pretty little pendant. Thank god it didn't say "LOVE". It says "LUCK" instead. I can accept luck. She needs good luck for her Maths topical test next week anyway. Hhehe..

Kids, they grow up so fast, too fast these days.

I texted the boy's mother to asked because I didn't want him giving her someone else's pendant or if she took it from someone. The boy's mum said yes it is from him and he asked her to get something for my daughter from him. His mum even told me that her son likes my daughter. I dont know if the feeling is mutual but my daughter is pretty friendly…I guess she likes everyone. Not in that way yet of course!
A few boys in class has been teasing them too.

Gosh! I know it is sweet and cute and all…but my husband doesn't think so. "Only papa can be your boyfriend!!!"

Forever papa's little sweetheart.
Wednesday, May 11, 2016

Finding the right balance

I remember being a super smart kid. I think I stopped being smart after UPSR when I protested about joining CBN because I wanted to be with my friends in Assunta secondary. My mum didn't want me there because:

1. We moved to KL and Assunta was far-ish. (It was just an excuse!)
2. I was too naughty. Smart & Naughty, bad combo. She had to pull me out of there (Assunta) 

My mum thought that putting me into a school like CBN (good reputation and what not) I will be that smart little girl again but I didn't. I found friends and got naughtier. Yikes!

Anyway, I now sort of understand what my mum was trying to do or wanted to do. Education is very important to her. She will pay for anything and everything when it comes to education. I remember her spending loads on extra classes tuition fees, summer camps, courses after courses all in the name of EDUCATION. I get it now. Education IS important. She was right. Back then, I didn't understand. I didn't know why I had to do well in school and why she was pushing us to get good results. I get it now.

Now that I am a mother, I feel it. I want my daughter to get and have the best education. I think we found a school that is the best for us. It is not the best school but it is the best for us, now, I think. There's no such thing as a perfect school. I am slowly starting to wonder if we are in the right one. I guess I'll never know.

First of all, my daughter is only in Year 1. She's not even 6 years old yet but already I am finding school really taxing. Not enough play and too much studying. I don't remember studying at all in primary school but my daugher is having exams after exams and tests after tests. It's driving me nuts. Me, the mum. The student aka the daughter, is totally fine. She couldn't be bothered. I guess she doesn't really get it yet. It's ok, she has her whole life to "get it!".

I dont have any experience being a mum. I dont know how to find the balance. She's my first and I don't know any better and I don't want her to fail. I push her to revise and practice to make sure she does alright in these tests. But yet, when I am pushing her and I see that she rather play than study (she's normal!) I feel really bad. I WANT to let her play but I DONT WANT her to fail. Where do I draw the line? Play first and then study? Or study first and then play? In theory, that will work but we dont have the luxury of time. She comes home at about 4pm, by the time she get changed and usually have something to eat, it is already 5pm. This is when she will play. By 6pm it will be shower, dinner and then sleep before she has to get up at 6am the next morning. So you see, for us, either you play or you practice and normally…it is "you have to study!" 

So far she's coping quite alright. She's a clever girl like her mama was. But lately, I am finding school is getting too difficult. I didn't study, didn't do homework (and got scolding A LOT) and didn't go for any extra classes till about 12 years old. But Year 1 work at her school is really tough! I dont remember primary school being so difficult 

I am not a teacher. I don't know how to teach. Some of the things they are doing in school requires me to teach techniques I don't even know how to teach a 6 year old! Maths is getting too confusing too. In one week, they are learning so many different topics. I remember when I was in school, we will study a topic in great depths before moving on but now, they touch the surface and expect them to know everything.

So I need to find a balance. I dont know how, yet but I need to find it. I'll always worry about exams (for her), I'm sure. But I need to learn not to care so much about the results she brings home. Easier said than done. 

People kept telling me not to stress because "she's only 6", let her fail, so what? 
But as a mum, I dont want her to fail. It's tough to find this balance or dont care attitude especially since I am at home with her a lot to guide her. I didn't have my mum sitting with me to do homework because my mum was always working and busy but my daughter has that luxury. I should sit and do homework with her. 

My plan is just to teach her to do her best. I've been telling her to do her best and not give up ("We are not quitters"). I need to teach her the right concept.. because she doesn't get it, still! 

Me: How was your English exam today?
Daughter: It was SOOOOOOOO difficult. But I did MY BEST.
Me: It's ok. If you've done your best then it is OK. 
Daughter: I think I'll get 0/80.
Me: WHHHAAATTTT!!!!!!! 0/80 is not your best!!!

eeerrrr….dont know who doesn't get the concept? Mummy or daughter? 

SIGH!
Sunday, May 8, 2016

Happy Mother's Day

Happy Mother's Day to all mommies reading my blog. You are all awesome!!!

I am obsessed with Grace Ciao. I saw her work for the first time when Mothercare Malaysia posted it on Instagram. I fell in love. She uses flowers in her illustrations and it is simply gorgeous. Like this one below, is my ultimate favourite.

It reminded me and my daughter. Well, I dont wear stuff like that but everything about this photo is so close to my heart because it has my favourite colour (yellow & white) and it uses my favourite flower (yellow daisies) and it reminded me of my time in UK where you can find all these yellow daisies growing wild during spring in Cambridge. I love this so much I actually placed an order for this particular piece. I can't wait to hang it in my office at home.

Anyway, back to Mother's Day.

The kids brought back stuff they made from school for Mother's Day on Friday. It was so awesome because I've been hearing about this all week from them. You know, the "Mummy, I made something special for you but I can't tell you what it is" kind of stuff. EVERY SINGLE DAY for a whole week it was that. I was looking forward to receiving them on Friday.

We didn't have anything special planned for Mother's Day. Wanted to take my mum and my mum in law out but somehow they already had plans. I guess it is just us this Mother's Day. That's ok. Everyday is Mother's Day anyway.

I woke up that morning with a scream on my ear to say "HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY, MUMMY"!!! Bright and early at 6 bloody AM! You see, my kids dont get iPads during weekdays. They only get to play with it during weekends. So, they both wake up really early to maximise their iPad day. (Note to self: I need to change this ruling. Otherwise I will never get that extra hour of sleep every Saturday and Sunday mornings!).


They did the usual thing, woke up early and asked for iPads. They ate breakfast and I got a little note on my daughter's whiteboard. We hang out at home till it was lunchtime. Hubby asked where we should go and my daughter said she wanted Japanese food. Off we went to the usual place at Avenue K. Nothing special and nothing great. Remember how I said I loved Japanese food?? Well, I'm pretty sick of it now because we keep going to the same place and order the same food. We tried calling few other Japanese Restaurants in town but all were fully booked. Looks like it is Sushi Zanmai it is for Mother's Day lunch.

After lunch, kids didn't want to go home. We went to this indoor playground at Avenue K called Star Light Kids. It was our first time there. The playground is not that big. It is pretty small but we stayed there for about 2 hours playing. My husband babysat the kids while I went for a short walk around Avenue K. Guess where? Popular Bookstore to get my daughter some stuff for school.

After Star Light Kids, we went to check out the ice skating ring there. It was empty! My daughter has been begging us to let her go ice skating. We didn't because it is always full everywhere and we didn't want her to get hurt. She obviously doesn't know how to skate and no way I was going to skate. I dont want to break any bones. But since this time, this place was empty, we decided ok, they can have a go. We even hired a "coach" to guide them.


They spent 2 hours skating. At first, with some help but soon they were skating on their own. I was so proud when my daughter could do it. She kept asking if I was proud and if I am happy that she didn't give up and didn't quit. She fell a lot of times. My son gave up at first but my daughter kept encouraging him to try again because "we are not quitters!" LOL.

We were there for so long that I actually left them to go shopping downstairs. I managed to buy 2 tops at some shop in Avenue K. My feet were killing me but yet, the kids kept on skating.

The person at the Ice Skating place said she knows me. I was like "huh?" because she doesn't look familiar at all. Apparently I was her junior in Primary School. When we started talking, it then started to click. OK, I know her. Wow. Time really flies. It was 20 over years ago when we were in school together.


After skating, we decided to just have dinner there. We went to Dolly Dim Sum. It was my first time there actually. I was still full from our Japanese lunch but kids were so tired, they ate A LOT.
We went back for dinner feeling so very tired. They slept early too.

My daughter said this was the best Mother's Day EVER. Funny, we didn't do anything I wanted to do and just went with what the kids (my daughter) wanted. She planned it all.

Well, I guess it was alright. Life is like that when you are a mum. You sacrifice things like this for their happiness. I am happy that they had a great time. I would be happier if I got flowers or a handbag or something like that…but I am grateful. Grateful that I was with people I love most. I wish I had spent time with my mums (mine and my husband's) but it's ok. They won't eat dim sum and Japanese and wouldn't enjoy ice skating for sure!

Alhamdulillah. I am blessed.
Friday, May 6, 2016

Brownies Story

Sigh. Things I do for brownies…..

You know I LOVE my brownies right? Read this post. I am really obsessed with her brownies. It is truly the best ever! I've tried many and trust me, this is THE BEST!

My pregnant BFF last week told me she's craving brownies. Being the sweetheart that I am, I said ok, let's order. Another friend of mine is also interested to try so I decided to order 3. May as well.
Good thing about this baker is, it is 15 minutes away from my house. It is so convenient for me to go and pick up whereas for my BFF to pick up, is quite far from her place.

I texted the lady to place my order and she didn't reply. I panicked. I mean OMG, what if she doesn't want to take my order? what if she is not taking orders? What if she changed her number?

When I feel like ordering brownies, I want them NOW, NOW! Really, I cannot wait.

I waited 1 whole day and no reply. There was no tick next to the message too which meant she didn't even get the message. But I can see that she's online. OMG, is she ignoring me? What did I do?????!!
Uwaaaaa!!! I was so depressed the next day after getting no reply.

I told my BFF I couldn't get hold of the lady to order. We were depressed. She was pregnant and craving so it's really ok…but me? I'm not pregnant and I am craving and depressed, something is not right somewhere, right?? LOL. #dontjudgeme


2 days later, I sent her another WA. Still, no reply. WTF!!!

Come day 3, I tried sending SMS to her. This time, thinking maybe her WA is not working.

I felt like a bloody stalker. Her instagram is still updating photos of her yummy cakes. Depression is real, ok.

Then after god-know-how-many-days, I WA'ed her again and got an immediate reply. She said sorry for not replying. Apparently she was super busy and forgot to reply me. Pfft!! I was depressed for nothing!

Confirmed the order and as usual, asked to make payment immediately to confirm the order. I was supposed to pay immediately after I got her reply but something happened and I completely forgot and did it the next day. I sent her the proof of payment.

No reply.

But Friday was pick up day. I've already arranged with my friends to pick up from me on Friday. All sorted. All 3 of us are happy and looking forward for Friday.

Come Friday…no reply from her to say she received my payment. That's strange. But I didn't bother checking. I was supposed to pick up at 3.30pm

At 2pm, my BFF asked me if she could pick up from me earlier than the time she was supposed to come pick up from me. I decided to ask the lady if I could pick up earlier. Guess what?? My proof of payment photo didn't go through. She didn't get it!!! I sent it to her on Wednesday but somehow the photo didn't go through. WTF!!!!

So she assumed that my order is cancelled. No payment = no order. But problem is, payment did go through, just that she doesn't know and obviously wasn't checking the account for my payment.
Finally she rushed my order and still said ok for Friday pick up but she can't do it before 5pm.

Gosh!!! I could wait but my BFF couldn't because she can't come to me that late.

There's a whole long story that happened from 5pm but I'm too tired to type it all out. All I can say is FINALLY, those babies are in my hands!!!!! Warm and just out from their oven.

I'm so happy.

Alhamdulillah.

All for brownies??? I really need to learn to make it myself!

Monday, May 2, 2016

You jump, I jump!

My daughter got an invitation to attend one of her classmate's birthday party at the Jump Street Asia in PJ on Sunday. At first I wasn't too sure about going because it is a long weekend (labour day holiday) and we weren't sure if we will be in town. Also, jumping on a trampoline….? I was worried my kids might hurt themselves. I honestly didn't know what to expect. I asked a few friends about it and they assured me that my kids are big enough to enjoy Jump Street and they will go nuts! I gambled and took their word for it. I'm so glad I did because the kids had a blast!!!

We went to Jump Street on a Sunday morning. Party was at 9.30am and we were there a bit late. We got up early but somehow, we were still a bit late. About 20 minutes late or so, not too bad.

First 30 minutes was getting all the kids ready for warm up. At first my son didn't want to join in because the place is huge and I think it was pretty overwhelming. My daughter wasn't too sure about joining her friends too but I encouraged her to just join in. They were all given the Jump Street socks (which is a special sock that gives you extra grip so you won't fall on the trampoline) and a vest to put on. We were told that everyone gets to jump for an hour and then goes off to the party room to eat for another hour. Apparently that is how it is there, they go by the hour. Every hour gives you this coloured tag. When the hour is up, they will ask to leave and the other colour goes in. I guess the system there is pretty ok but if you think about it, it is pretty expensive as they also charge per hour. If you arrive late, say 10.10am, you will only get to jump for 50 minutes. If you arrive early, say 10.45am, then you need to wait till 11am before your session starts. Get it?
The coach guiding them what to do
There was an instructor / coach to guide them throughout that whole hour for the party. My son didn't want to join in at first but after 10 minutes of seeing his sister jumping, he couldn't take it anymore. He wanted to join in too.

After an hour of jumping, it was time to go. Off they went to the party room to eat and sing birthday song. You would think that they'll all be tired after an hour of jumping, right? Wrong! They all wanted to go back jumping! Only thing is they can't because the party only allows for 1 hour of jumping. If you want to jump again, you'd have to pay for the extra hour. All her classmates left but my kids wanted to stay. (The other kids wanted to stay too but the parents said no!)

Although it was good that they had an instructor / coach to guide n lead the party, I think kids would rather just do their own thing. With the coach, you need to queue up and do the exact same thing the group are doing whereas if you are on your own, you are free to do whatever you want. I think 1 hour for the party is not enough because they had to wait quite a while for their turns when it comes to the jumping activities. Nonetheless, it was good fun!


Finally we decided to stay for another hour. My husband and I had a meal at the cafe.
We were so hungry! The cafe is ok. I ordered hotdog, my husband had chicken chop and we ordered meatball spaghetti for my maid. Kids already ate at the party and didn't want to eat anymore. Good thing is the cafe is on the top floor, you can have a meal there and watch them jump from up there.
View from the cafe

My kids had to wait for 15 minutes before the next session starts and then continued jumping while we had our lunch! I'm not sure how much but we had to pay for another hour. Their rates are per hour. You can see it here.

RM22 - RM27 per hour. Grip socks are RM5 each

This was my first time in Jump Street and I must say I loved it! My kids loved it! It was so awesome I curi-curi jumped as well. After about 2 minutes of jumping, I almost died. I am so NOT fit!

After an extra hour of jumping, they still didn't want to go home! But the time was. Up. No way we were going to continue for another hour! 

We had so much fun. We'll be back for sure! Going to get my husband to jump with us next time. You jump, I jump!