Tuesday, March 13, 2018

Self Love

When I went for my wellness assessment last week, one of the things the person said to me was, I do not love myself enough. I was puzzled when she said that because I thought I do. I mean, of course I do love myself. What is she saying?

I started processing what she said and went deeper to understand what she meant by not loving myself enough. I do pamper myself every now and then. I do treat myself to nice things when I can. I do think I am beautiful inside out, most days. So how can she say I do not love myself enough?

When you talk about self love, people often see it as moral flaw or being selfish. I dont deny that I too sometimes think I am being selfish when I think about myself a little bit more. Sometimes I struggle in accepting the fact that in order to take care of my family better, I need to take care of myself first. In order to make my family happy, I need to be happy first. Is that being selfish? Some might say yes but trust me, it is not. I am slowly trying to take control of my own happiness and it feels wonderful.
Some of the things I love to do 

Remember, practising self-love doesn't mean you are selfish, it only means that you care about yourself too. Here are some of the things you can do to practice self love (other than the above!):

1. Buy yourself flowers. I love fresh flowers. Unfortunately, I dont get flowers unless it is my birthday. So, why wait till someone get it for you? Buy it yourself!

2. Write 10 things you love about yourself every week. It should be a different list every week. There's really a lot of things you must love about yourself, surely!
RM261.00 retail price 

3. Rub your favourite essential oils on your palms and inhale. My current favourite is Joy. It does give me a lot of Joy.

4. Cook something healthy for yourself. Or if you're lazy like me, order something healthy. I spent RM50.00 last week for a LushBowl for lunch for myself. It was good! It is a bit too expensive for lunch but what the heck, it is for your own self and it is healthy!

5. Wear full on makeup, just for fun! Look pretty for yourself even if your husband likes you without makeup. My husband doesn't like me wearing makeup but once in a while, just wear makeup for myself! Why not! I look pretty in makeup.

6. Listen to your favourite song in the car and sing out loud. I do this with my kids a lot and we have such a great time singing out loud. So what if they dont know the sappy Boys II Men song! Just sing your heart out!

7. Surround yourself with positivity. Positive friends. We usually mirror the people we hang out with. When you hang out with funny people, you will start being funny. Surround yourself with people you admire and love. I'm blessed I have wonderful positive friends around me all the time.

8. Sleep in! Even if the kids are up and demanding your attention. They will survive!

9. Get in touch with your spiritual side. Some people meditate, some people do Yoga and some people pray. I dont meditate and I dont do yoga. I do pray, although not enough. Find that inner peace. It is a journey and it is difficult to achieve that inner peace but I believe praying does help. If you dont pray, try meditation. A friend of mine told me her dad meditates at least few times a day. He is able to find inner peace that way more than he prays. Whatever works.

10. Watch cat videos or baby videos on YouTube. LOL. I do this a lot. Am I weird?
Cats and babies are so cute and they make me happy. (As long as I dont have to take care of them!)

There you go, 10 tips on how to practice self-love.

Self-love is about making yourself a priority. It is about taking care of your own well-being and happiness. At the end of the day, no one cares and loves you more than you can care and love yourself. Agree?

No comments:

Post a Comment

Say what?!