Monday, April 2, 2018

Sorry, I forgive you and thank you

Remember how I am currently "soul searching"? Well, I am. I still haven't found the answers I'm looking for but I think I am making some progress. I am actually learning some new things about myself. I'm turning 39 years old this year and it is amazing that there are still new things I am learning about myself. Everyday is a learning process, isn't it?

Recently I discovered that I dont say "sorry", "I forgive you" and "thank you" enough. Simple words I just somehow ignore. Well, not most of the time, but they dont come out of my mouth as often as it should. Let me give you an example….

1. I dont say sorry unless I am REALLY sorry! Sometimes, saying sorry is the easiest and fastest way to resolve an issue and an argument but no, with me, I dont say it unless I really mean it. Sometimes, even if I am sorry, I dont say it!

2. I dont forgive easily. I just hold grudges, which is so bad. I'm ashamed that I do but I dont forgive and forget. I dont forgive easily and let's face it, I dont forget easily too! I just keep it inside for so long and that is something I want to change about myself. Forgiving others is actually not so much about benefiting the person that wronged you, forgiving can actually give you peace. I believe this because whenever I forgive, I feel at ease and I feel free.

3. I do say thank you but I feel like I need to say it more. I'm thankful for the little things people do for me daily but I just take it for granted that they know. My husband says thank you whenever I help make an appointment for him for haircut (for example), if I told him to make the appointment for me, I would forget to say thank you. You know, little things like that. I think needs to change.

Moving forward, I will remind myself to say those words more. I noticed my daughter doesn't like to say sorry too whenever she's done something wrong and it irks me. My son is the opposite. He says sorry all the time, even when he doesn't really mean it. I spoke to my kids one day about the importance of saying sorry, forgiving someone and saying thank you. I try to explain to them the best way I can. They get it.

After prayers and after saying our doas, we will all salam each other and give each other a hug. Now, I told them to add another thing. We will say sorry to each other, forgive each other and say thank you.

"I'm sorry if I hurt your feelings today"
"I'm sorry too. I forgive you"
"Thank you for everything"

It's beautiful.

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